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When I took a dance class with my husband years ago, the instructor told us that any couples in the class should split up and dance with others. “We have a tendency to say things to our partner that we wouldn’t to other people,” I remember her saying. “Like, ‘Honey, you’re doing it wrong.’”
It was true—we switched partners every few minutes, and whenever my husband came up in the rotation we would end up bickering about who was dancing wrong. (Honestly, we were new to this. It was both of us.)
There are some things you and your partner can do together to get some exercise, but you’ve got to be careful about choosing the right kind of workout. Big no-no’s:
There’s a further pitfall, which can happen with any workout buddy you know well: instead of motivating each other to go to the gym, you can end up talking each other into staying home. (If it’s been a long day, you’re both tired.) If you’re convinced this could never happen to you, here are some ways to try working out with your sweetie.
Don’t do the same thing. That’s the golden rule. If you try to just “go for a run together” and your partner is faster than you, they will resent having to slow down and you’ll tire yourself out trying to speed up. Even if you are exactly the same pace, this is still a no. After a while, one of you will get faster, and then you have the above problems plus an added question of why are they getting faster and I’m not? (Maybe they have more time to run, maybe they’re biologically gifted, doesn’t matter. You’ll still be pissed off about it.)
Instead, go to the track together, and each run your own workout. You’re still in the same place, so you can meet up at water breaks and you can still go for beer or ice cream together afterwards. Make it a date, not a race.
Try this with any activity you can do in the same place, but not side-by-side. You can go to the pool and swim laps together—ideally in separate lanes. I can successfully go to the gym with my husband, and he’ll do his workout while I do mine. We coordinate a brief stretch of time where we spot each other on the bench press, trying very hard to keep our mouths shut, and then we go our separate ways again.
Couples can also survive a class together if you’re in a situation where you only pay attention to the instructor and never to each other. For example, a group cycling class, with loud music, in the dark. Do not sit on adjacent bikes.
I hear that it’s possible to coexist while doing partnered bodyweight moves or stretches, but I’m skeptical.
There is one exception to the rule about doing things together. You can go ahead if it’s an activity you’re both good at, and that is well under your capability. A leisurely stroll, for example. You’re not going to correct how your partner walks (I hope). Or a scenic bike ride that is not at all a race, not even when you get to a hill. (Perhaps it’s best to avoid hills.)
Oh, and if you’d like to take advantage of the phenomenon where we work a little harder in a group or with a stronger workout buddy, do yourself a favor: go find a friendly coaching group, or turn an aquaintance into a workout buddy. Leave your partner out of this.
from Lifehacker http://bit.ly/2CNtYiQ